Thank you. This isn’t a letter out of spite…it’s not a Haha, I won! letter…and it’s not a “I hope I make you jealous” letter. First and foremost, thank you for breaking up with me. I wasn’t happy, and I never would have been happy. I’ve always been type of girl that if something wasn’t broke, then I wouldn’t fix it. I never learned that even the things that just work fine, still need fixing. That’s why I am so glad that you had the balls to dump me.
I wasn’t myself with you. I stopped writing. I couldn’t remember the last time that I even thought about picking up a pen and etching those words across a blank canvas. Writing became a chore instead of my passion because I had nothing to say. By me not writing, I learned my whole life was an act and I really didn’t want to transcribe the screenplay. I wasn’t happy. At all. It didn’t hit me how unhappy I was because I never wrote it down. Because somehow writing it down would make it real, it would make it official, it would put it out there. I wasn’t ready for that. I wanted to go on pretending that life was good. If I pretended enough, I thought I would belive it myself. That’s no way to live your life.
I learned to be a better person without you. When we broke up you immediately tried to sleep with every girl that you met. It was beyond gross to me, but then after that it became beyond sad. This is because the girls let you do it. With 5 different girls, you got away with “hitting it and quitting it” to use gross guy terminology. You wooed these women, got naked pictures, loved them, and then left them. They let you do it. It made me so furious. It wasn’t because I was mad at you, I was mad at them. How could a girl have such low standards to sleep with you on the 3rd date? I then realized, I was that person. I did that. I vowed to never be that person again. I didn’t want to be that girl that slept with someone on the 3rd date and then cried because she regretted it. I didn’t want to be that person where kisses and sex no longer meant anything. I never would have realized these unless I witnessed it happening to other girls. By you screwing and screwing over others. I learned that I never want to put myself in a situation where that girl is me.
Thank you for teaching me exactly what I do not want in a relationship. I was never a profile picture, or a #WCW (woman crush Wednesday). I never got a mushy gushy I love my girlfriend so much post, or any comments on anything. It was almost that in the Social Media world realm I didn’t exist. I was never the girl you would call with exciting news, never the one you’d cook dinner for, or the one you would talk to hours before we fell asleep. I was far away it seemed. I was never anything. I don’t want that in my next relationship. Thank you for teaching me that even though things were fine on the surface – never fighting, always being nice to one another – they weren’t fine underneath. A smooth surface, doesn’t mean a sturdy foundation. The foundation is important.
Lastly, thank you for making me feel like crap about my career choice after we broke up. I will never forget, “You’re a journalist. You do nothing to better the world, you just write about it.” I wish I could print that picture out and look at it everyday. That single sentence right there is why I do everything I do now. It’s why I push myself to be a better person every day. It’s why I’m working so hard to make myself known in the Journalism world. I will be somebody and it’ll be all thanks to you.
Lastly, thank you for making me feel like crap about the way I looked. Everytime you saw a girl walking down the street you just had to point out, to me, how sexy she was or how nice of an ass she had. You always had to ask when I was going to get down to my pre pregnancy weight. You never had anything nice today. I was never beautiful, sexy, or gorgeous. I ended up hating the way I looked. Thanks to you, I will never again let someone cut down my looks. Thanks to you I will continue working to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. NOT FOR YOU. But, for me. You don’t deserve anything.
So thank you, thank you, thank you. When I thought you ended my life by leaving it, you were really allowing me to begin it.